Is this you?

You’ve poured everything into your business, and years down the line you’ve developed some bad habits. You can’t talk about it to anyone, because leadership is a lonely place.

You sacrificed your health and your relationships, but now you’re trapped in the spillage cycle: work spills into your home life, which then spills back into work.

You try to set boundaries, but they often fail. Your family, partner, or friends are growing tired of the complaints and excuses for your lack of attention and emotional outbursts.

You don’t find professional support; instead, you begin to offload on colleagues. But they’re paid to realise the ambitions of your business, not to act as substitute therapists or make up for your lack of investment in friendships. You forget you’re in a power dynamic that ensures “people pleasing” rather than honesty and accountability.

You’re stressed, so you accidentally complain about one colleague to another trusted listener—leaving them wondering, “When I’m not here, do they talk about me like that?”

Sadly, because you’re not dealing with your issues, you begin to poison your own well. The workplace culture you worked so hard to create is eroding, and you can’t even see it. Some of your most talented and trusted are jumping ship.

Your diet is a mess. Your health scores are in the toilet. You never exercise, and when you try it never sticks. Turning to alcohol becomes all too easy. Avoidance becomes all too easy. And how do you cope? By relying on what’s always worked: WORK.

You put your head down, take on more business even when you don’t have to, work harder and harder—but this time, work is not working.

Deep down, you know what you need to do, but you’re scared of change. Scared of reducing responsibilities for fear everything you’ve built will fall apart. Scared of feeling like a failure. Scared of showing up fully in your relationships. Scared of letting go of that client who doesn’t align with your business direction.

You know how to survive—you’re a master of survival. You live for the adrenaline and the reward, but something about that doesn’t feel right at this level. You want to know how to be a leader of calm and presence, not just of relentless drive.

You can’t reconcile your dreams of wanting to be a better, happier, calmer, wiser business leader with your ambitions for the business itself.

You see life in a binary way: “It’s one or the other,” you say. And because you’re at the top—a lonely place—there’s no one you can share this with.